Pass me the g’damn controller, man!

Last night, Louie FINALLY threw down the gauntlet and offered to play few games with me.  Which was complete shock, as that was one of the reasons I started blogging.  It REALLY caught me off guard, as I’m used to being silly, cracking jokes at the dialogue in whatever I’m playing.  Clearly, there I wasn’t gonna say no!

Sadly, we only had like an hour at most before I had to get ready for work.  The Xbox 360 was a no go, as my 2nd controller needed to have it’s batteries recharged.  (Note to self, do that.)  So the PS3 was my only option. (My PS4 only has one controller.  Note to self, get a second one.)

With what little time we had, I skimmed through my digital library in hopes of finding a game she’d like.  First up was Jet Set Radio (one player), which she just thought it was weird, calling them creepy; which I had to laugh at.  We played with three retries, in order to keep us engaged.  Louie complained about the movement and how it was kinda difficult to handle.  Obviously, I told her with every time she said “I can’t do this!” to just remember that games are all about trial/error, learning and improving.  (I gave her a lot of credit, as she hasn’t played a video game since, Guitar Hero.)  When it was my turn, I kinda agreed with her about the wonky controls.  Playing it seems like your character has a Low-G effect.  Considering that the game was eating up our time, we tried something else.

Little Big Planet 2 seemed like a good idea, to our luck, I hadn’t played it in a while and had 2 hours in updates pending.  Our last game for the night was Virtua Fighter 5, which was fun to play a local fighter with someone.  (Most of the time, I’m going online or playing solo.)

I remember her complaining about why all of the women were portrayed as puny and always pretty.  (Clearly, she hasn’t played as Vanessa!)

We ended up tied with a few wins between each other and then we called it quits for the night.  I liked this…ya know, the whole sharing activities, I wanna do more!  I’ll have to go through my library and see what we can do as 2-player and what has to be one player experiences.

Hell, eventually I ought to let play a few titles and have me watch her play.  She always liked to watch me play Uncharted, maybe I’ll get her into that or the new Tomb Raider.

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While I was relaxing and spending some time on the couch with Louie.  She saw a commercial for Uncharted 4.  When it was playing on the TV, she said “here’s another for you to game to review”.  I kindly responded, “I’d like to”, with a clear inclination that I want the game, but can’t afford to get it.  She also mentioned this, after seeing a commercial for Overwatch.  (Which I’m still torn on Battleborn and Overwatch, as to the one to play!)

Then she surprised me right out of left field and said.  “How about I review a few games?”

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EXACTLY HOW I FELT!!!!  – SOURCE

I was ELATED to hear that coming from her and certainly didn’t expect her to say that.  So, I’ll look at some of my indie titles and get her started with one or two there.  If that doesn’t work, we’ll try some mobile games out there.  But I think I have a few things, I can think of.

I have to admit, that probably took a LOT from her and REALLY do appreciate her more than anything, yet equal to our daughter Grace.  Love you, Lou.

 

Compromises and clarifications

Yesterday, I discussed the issue with my wife, not having a serious interest in my gaming blog entries.  In doing so, it clearly got her attention; so we talked about it this evening.

As clarification, she’s not opposed to playing videogames, she’s just a casual gamer and has played console games since Guitar Hero, Plants Vs Zombies and was big into Phantasy Star Online on the Dreamcast.  (Which gets respect from me, as anything Dreamcast is awesome!)  But she hasn’t touched a console game in years, which I don’t pressure on her.  Most of the games I do play are non-casual and require a deeper learning curve.

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Just so you know, this post wasn’t made at knife-point…………….. 

On this, I do blame myself, as I usually avoid playing games when they’re home.  That way, my attention is on them and not focused on the game.  But when we talked last night, I asked her, “Can we put aside some time where we can share some gaming time together?” Which she agreed to, some I’ll discuss more of that with her at a later date.  My hopes are, that one day I’ll be sharing our gaming experiences on here FROM BOTH OF US!

(It would be pretty cool if we, gave our impressions of the various games we played together, it’s really just something that I’d like to share with her.)

As you would imagine, she wasn’t very pleased to have a personal issue aired out.  But honestly, I felt like my concerns were not validated by her at that time, when we talked about it initially two days ago.  That was not the case, and there was some miscommunication between us.  (Which we cleared up.)

Overall, I’ll admit after talking about it, that partially at fault, as I’ve separated my gaming sessions away from time with her.  Which means she isn’t able to really share that time with me.  Also, the best way for us to make a compromise on this is to MAKE TIME FOR IT.

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Then maybe, one day everything will be just as I dreamed it would turn out. 

 

 

Reality and then…Not so much.

I asked Louie, whom is my eternal love, if she’d been reading my entries recently.  Except, she told me that I’ve been only posting about gaming, which is mostly what this blog is a about!

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Your Links taste a little too gamey for me.

Essentially, she sort of rolled her eyes and said, “that stuff doesn’t interest me”.  Then she compared gaming to some mundane topic of random knowledge, and that kind of made a little mad.  I know that gaming is not for everyone, but if its a major hobby of your significant one and they write about it on the internet…shouldn’t you at least show SOME interest?!

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Not necessarily out of pity, but to bring you closer to each other.  Now, I’ll admit I’m not a big TV watcher (which she is), but at least I do sit down and watch them with her, despite many of them don’t interest me.  So, my question is.

Am I asking too much from her, in having her read my posts, even though they don’t truly interest her?  PLEASE GIVE FEEDBACK, SHARE.  As always, thanks!

 

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Puny to Powerful!! Gamer dad, get off your ass!

Two weeks ago, my Louie (my wife) got fed up with inactive and began exercising 6 times a week.  Diet wise, we were already getting into making our meals at home and eating out or ordering once a week.  (With it being one or the other)

She’s stayed consistent and reminded me, that I didn’t have to start exercising, but she definitely gave me motivations to get back into it.

Now, exercise wise and physique I’ve stayed strong and not to the point where it has affected my appearance too much.  But I’ll be honest, I hadn’t worked out for about four months, which is BAD.  So I decided to hit it up and start back up.  Two sessions at the gym later and I feel like Kimbo Slice’s heavy bag.

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Hey Slice, why you gotta bring a gun to fistfight?!

Today, I got sick while doing the elliptical for only 10 minutes and I could feel my chest tightening.  After about 10 minutes of resting and hydrating, did I continue my workout with weights.  (At this point, I felt cardio would’ve made things much worse)  My worry from this, is that I might have sports induced asthma.  So I discussed with Louie and we agree that I’ll make an appointment to see a doc soon.  For now, it’ll be alternating cardio and gym days, with PLENTY of hydration and NO EXCUSES.

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I’ve been on workout programs before and I know how to push myself, so this has to come from within for me to make my changes.

In terms of my hobbies, it cuts back six hours of my time for workouts and another six for hers.  (As I use that time to spent time with Grace, while she’s at the gym)  So I gotta make time for it when I can.

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This will be a time where I have to put my money where my mouth is and make it happen.  I’ll keep you posted.

Gaming for those in real relationships!

Okay, so initially I was going to wait until Christmas to pick up my Playstation 4.   But the impulses got the better of me and I went and bought a Star Wars Battlefront bundle.  (along with Fallout 4; currently 30+ hours in)

I’ll admit, it was a gamble getting it before the holidays.  My wife was fairly pissed for about a week.

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But, to be honest, I felt that it was clearly known that I wanted it and had earned the money out of my own paycheck; that as an adult, I can buy it whenever I liked.  Christmas can be magical for my lady and my daughter, honestly I could’ve cared less when it came to being such a large and obvious gift.

Simply put, no matter how I word this, it will come out wrong for many others, so what is done, is done.

I’d love to elaborate on my overall experience, but this time, I have a much more serious message to get across.  Which is, to discuss gaming in serious relationships, where your other half doesn’t play games.  How to handle serious relationships when you; the hardcore gamer is having conflicts with your significant other about your habits.

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After reading quite a posts of Facebook, Twitter and many other social media hubs about how Fallout 4 is seriously messing up good relationships.  Some are going to the extent of breaking ups to straight up just breaking the game disc itself.

What many gamers don’t realize is… that YOU CAN PUT A GAME DOWN AT ANYTIME.  (yes, even online)

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Which brings me to rule # 1

FAMILY COMES FIRST!-The excitement and need to tear into a new game or to play are being deprived of any games in days or hours, is a tough urge to fight.  It’s easy to pull yourself away from the temptation to play before you start.

But like the mafia…once your in, your in.  We get engrossed in the gameplay, the experience and the interactions from online parties and hate being interrupted when shit is getting good.

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Honestly, though it doesn’t replace the memories we have in real life.  Going out, sharing quality time with those we care for… IS PRECIOUS!

These times will go away, if ignored.  Games can be replayed endlessly and so long as you continue to own your games, they will be there.  It will save you a headache and maybe an unwanted talk about how you spend too much time playing games.

The online community can wait, IF THEY ARE YOUR FRIENDS they will understand, when your going to spend time with the people you love most.

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Rule # 2  PLAY SMART, SPACE IT OUT!  Those of us, that are married or have kids know, that a binge gaming session just doesn’t happen.  Sometimes, you may get the family out of the house for some odd reason.  Only then, do you get an opportunity to play an 8-hour session in a t-shirt and pajama pants.  In remedy to this, I recommend playing in hourly or less sessions.   Sure it will keep you less interested in the story, especially if its an RPG.

KEEP NOTES OF THE STORY!  What I do is, I use Google Docs and make a word document and jot down the story and where I left off from, so I don’t get lost.  Fortunately, some games do this for you in some fashion, so you don’t have to; if not, you’ve got this.  Overall, just remember pick your times wisely.

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Rule # 3  JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE ALONE TIME, DOESN’T MEAN THERE AREN’T RESPONSIBILITIES

This is fairly simple, as it covers some real common sense things, such as housework, bills and daily bullshit.  If you said your going to do something, get that shit done and out of the way.  Bills, pay em and get it over with.  Keep the house tidy, make sure you feed your pets.  Change your oil and fill up your gas tank.  SOME PRETTY COMMON SENSE SHIT!  But you would be surprised, when you get sucked into a game and time flies, then DAMN…you may have a problem.

Rule #4  TALK IT OUT!!

We all should know by now, that communication is GOLDEN in family and relationships.  If you have someone that you love that isn’t into gaming, perhaps you may want to talk about sharing activities.  Obviously, you may have to be the one who has to put the first step forward.  Talk about getting engaged in the activities they like to do.  Once that is communicated and established for a fair amount of time, you may be able to promote the idea of sharing your gaming experiences.

You may not get a second player, but you may get someone who will watch the game with you or something to that extent.  In my case, my lady will sit on the couch and will watch and make funny comments or observations about a game.  As they say in the fine print on those infomercials, “Results may vary”

Rule #5  NEVER PLAY DEFENSIVE!

The person you care about may be tolerant of how much you game, but most likely your gonna butt heads on how much time is spent.  Which is where this final rule comes in.

Let’s be real, GAMING IS A HOBBY, and it should be treated that way. Express to him or her that it’s YOUR HOBBY and that you would like to have some time to spend on it, while they are home or in the room your playing in.  If they don’t at least respect or acknowledge that, they aren’t respecting you.

Never justify yourself when you’ve spending way too much time in your gaming sessions with them.  Stop playing… and listen to their concerns too.  They may be valid; just remember to communicate and work something out that works for both of you and the family.

With that, I wish everyone the best of results, play smart and have fun!!

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