How Valentine’s should be.

This evening many guys and gals are getting lucky because of this one special day. Many of us spent more money than we should’ve, thanks to the commercialization of Valentine’s Day. To be honest, the holiday is really a good and bad thing. This is coming from a dude, I know…mind blown, right?!

After some deep thinking for a few days on what I was going to get my wife. I stopped myself before I made a decision to go to the store. I realized that Valentine’s Day is really about appreciating those that we love deepest. Maybe it can be through flowers, cards and candy; but I think that doesn’t quite scratch the itch.

Valentine’s should be what the true meaning Christmas is. Appreciating what is great in life. For those of us who are fortunate enough to have a lover or companion in our life. This is a special time to let each other, I appreciate you being in life more than ever.

To be honest, I think we don’t stop to just truly LOVE AND APPRECIATE that man or woman in our lives.

So I came up with a better idea.

These are what I call Hot and Cold notes! The concept is super simple. Take two different color Post-It notes.

Make one color “sweet” and the other “sexy”.

For the “sweet” ones, I really took my time and thought about what makes my Louie, so wonderful. Some would be motivational, sweet and wholesome. While others would be about basic stuff, like about her smell, smile and what I thought was beautiful to me.

Now for the “sexy” notes, I got to have fun with them. Some of them would talk about the good things we did in bed, things that excited me and even new activities I’d like us to try. To make it work, I did avoid vulgarities. Let’s be honest, “I want to put my cock inside you.”, just doesn’t come off as romantic.

Instead, I would write “I miss feeling the heat from your mouth, as bodies move together!” Which sounds much sexier than the former.

For me, I did 91 Post-it notes. One for every month we’ve been together. Then for the “sweet” ones I placed them in “cool” areas in the house, like on fans or the refrigerator. The same is then done to the “sexy” ones, by placing them on the stove, a clothing iron or toaster.

To get creative, I used things like faucets to do BOTH on each knob or side.

Honestly, for me it took me a while to do. But was a very cheap way of reconnecting with what matters in your life.

Like the saying goes, “it’s the thought that counts!”


Maybe the answer is right under our nose!

Now, I’m not sharing this, because you’d think I’m drooling over these pictures of Beyonce (Really! I’m not! REALLY!! Oh OK, I am!) But what I like about this article, is that the quote at the end.

“It’s not about perfection. It’s about purpose. We have to care about our bodies and what we put in them.”


You see, those that truly feel terrible about themselves and how they look, truly do have legitimate reasons why aren’t doing enough. NOW TO THOSE THAT HAVE SERIOUS MEDICAL CONDITIONS, WE KNOW THIS DOESN’T APPLY TO YOU.

Many of us, myself included; allowed ourselves to continue to eat and drink garbage food. We all make excuses and NEVER make the changes. They don’t have to be drastic and eating a fat cheeseburger or drinking a soda, doesn’t have to go away. But we have to break the ADDICTION. I always hear the words moderation, endlessly, ALL THE TIME! So how do we moderate it, where do we begin? That is something only we can answer ourselves! For me, I think I need to think deep inside and figure out what brings me back to the 40oz sodas, large sandwiches with tons of deep-fried sides. I’M TIRED…OF THIS WAY OF LIFE!
Fast food tastes good, but NOT THAT GOOD, my cooking at home tastes a hell of a lot better than this.
Don’t know about you, but I gotta stop!

We all need to stop worrying about imperfections and focus on HOW WHAT WE ARE DOING TO OWN BODIES. Stop looking at the rolls, bumps, wrinkles and think about what important……YOU….YOUR BODY.

Thanks, and I apologize for the sidetrack!


Beyonce’s recent pose on a chair for the Elle Magazine’s May issue shows she’s very sporty and flexible. Queen Bey could have been a gymnast without music, just maybe.

The singer who currently launched her new wear line is promoting the business outfit Ivy Park. It is an active-wear fashion line.

Beyoncé Elle shoot

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Compromises and clarifications

Yesterday, I discussed the issue with my wife, not having a serious interest in my gaming blog entries.  In doing so, it clearly got her attention; so we talked about it this evening.

As clarification, she’s not opposed to playing videogames, she’s just a casual gamer and has played console games since Guitar Hero, Plants Vs Zombies and was big into Phantasy Star Online on the Dreamcast.  (Which gets respect from me, as anything Dreamcast is awesome!)  But she hasn’t touched a console game in years, which I don’t pressure on her.  Most of the games I do play are non-casual and require a deeper learning curve.

Just so you know, this post wasn’t made at knife-point…………….. 

On this, I do blame myself, as I usually avoid playing games when they’re home.  That way, my attention is on them and not focused on the game.  But when we talked last night, I asked her, “Can we put aside some time where we can share some gaming time together?” Which she agreed to, some I’ll discuss more of that with her at a later date.  My hopes are, that one day I’ll be sharing our gaming experiences on here FROM BOTH OF US!

(It would be pretty cool if we, gave our impressions of the various games we played together, it’s really just something that I’d like to share with her.)

As you would imagine, she wasn’t very pleased to have a personal issue aired out.  But honestly, I felt like my concerns were not validated by her at that time, when we talked about it initially two days ago.  That was not the case, and there was some miscommunication between us.  (Which we cleared up.)

Overall, I’ll admit after talking about it, that partially at fault, as I’ve separated my gaming sessions away from time with her.  Which means she isn’t able to really share that time with me.  Also, the best way for us to make a compromise on this is to MAKE TIME FOR IT.

Then maybe, one day everything will be just as I dreamed it would turn out. 



Puny to Powerful!! Gamer dad, get off your ass!

Two weeks ago, my Louie (my wife) got fed up with inactive and began exercising 6 times a week.  Diet wise, we were already getting into making our meals at home and eating out or ordering once a week.  (With it being one or the other)

She’s stayed consistent and reminded me, that I didn’t have to start exercising, but she definitely gave me motivations to get back into it.

Now, exercise wise and physique I’ve stayed strong and not to the point where it has affected my appearance too much.  But I’ll be honest, I hadn’t worked out for about four months, which is BAD.  So I decided to hit it up and start back up.  Two sessions at the gym later and I feel like Kimbo Slice’s heavy bag.


Hey Slice, why you gotta bring a gun to fistfight?!

Today, I got sick while doing the elliptical for only 10 minutes and I could feel my chest tightening.  After about 10 minutes of resting and hydrating, did I continue my workout with weights.  (At this point, I felt cardio would’ve made things much worse)  My worry from this, is that I might have sports induced asthma.  So I discussed with Louie and we agree that I’ll make an appointment to see a doc soon.  For now, it’ll be alternating cardio and gym days, with PLENTY of hydration and NO EXCUSES.


I’ve been on workout programs before and I know how to push myself, so this has to come from within for me to make my changes.

In terms of my hobbies, it cuts back six hours of my time for workouts and another six for hers.  (As I use that time to spent time with Grace, while she’s at the gym)  So I gotta make time for it when I can.


This will be a time where I have to put my money where my mouth is and make it happen.  I’ll keep you posted.