So the day went to shit….

Yesterday, I made my best effort to surprise Louie with a trip to one of her favorite gardens for Mother’s Day.  Unfortunately, the whole day went to shit, as Grace (being the “strong-willed” or as I tend to look at it undisciplined) 3 1/2-year old decided to do whatever she wanted.  Any other way; then she didn’t have, leading to fits and tons of frustration.  This went on from 12:30pm until about 4:30pm.

Don’t get us wrong, we tried, truly we tried EVERYTHING in our power to work things out as best as you can with a 3-year old.  Now, we know that there are some things that are not strong-willed behavior, like expecting things by demand or doing things on her terms.  (Which she does tend to do.)  Yet, there is no room for compromise with her, and if it’s met, it only delays the issue until later.

To say the least, it lead to me nearly blowing my cool and almost leading to laying a serious spanking.   I was furious, almost enraged beyond the point of cooling down.  Long story short, Grace ruined the day for us and someone was on a good punishment.  (No TV/phone/games/toys, just books in her room)

The moral of that day was, that I need to take a minute to cool down sometimes.  It’s such a pain in the ass to work with her sometimes.  We are trying almost everything, for the exception of corporal punishment and just TIRED of it.  (Louie is too, especially, because she is with her much more often than I.)  It was so bad, that when I was carrying Grace out to the car while I was pissed, she wanted a hug to try make up for it.  I told her no and that I didn’t want to give her one.  (Which was a first.  We shower our child with affection!)

I’m just hoping that much of these behaviors are a phase and can be corrected, to a point.

Any words of advice from more of the seasoned parents out there would be great! PLEASE!

11 thoughts on “So the day went to shit….

  1. I’m not a parent, so I can’t give any advice, but I think it speaks volumes that you had the presence of mind to keep your cool given the situation. Many people would’ve easily lost it, and I’m even guilty of being one to say the infamous “If it were me, I would do this…”

    I’d say patience is definitely key though. I’m sorry the day didn’t pan out… Hopefully you get a do-over.

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    1. Great advice, despite the inability not to give advice, lol! It actually scared me, as to how I said it in the moment. I’d say I barely kept my cool yesterday.

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  2. I do know the feeling! I’ve got a 3 1/2 year old boy that I’m home with all day while my husband works and most of the time he’s good but when he acts like that I usually realize he needs to go outside and run around for a while to get some of the energy out (which sucks on crap weather days), but on those days I take some time to roll a ball down the hall with him. I’ve learned that it’s hard to plan with children. So, when we know we are going to have a long day, we schedule a break in there just to give him a bit of attention and let him spend some of that built up energy. I’m sorry you had a rough time, and I don’t know if what I’ve said will help but I hope that maybe it does.

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    1. I see where coming from. We’ve been pretty good about letting get the pent up energy out. It’s more about her habits and how they can’t change or she goes into fits and such. Perhaps more outside might be needed. She gets about 10 to 12 hours outside on a fair weather week, school time not included.

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      1. Oh, yeah, those outbursts are rough. Ours has taken to falling like a stiff board onto the floor at home when he doesn’t get his way. Usually I have to just put him in his room for a while with the light off, make him count to 10 with me or make him sing his alphabet with me and then I make him take a deep breath when he gets into those moods. If he doesn’t want to count or sing his abc’s I just do it myself and he usually follows along and cools down. Unfortunately though, sometimes none of that works and I just feel defeated for a while :/

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        1. She just goes in her room and starts singing after she’s calmed down, that’s when I go and talk to her after I’ve sent her there.

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  3. Haha, been there, I wouldn’t worry about it.
    Ani’s advice above is spot on and exactly what we do; arrange time for the kids to take a break if its going to be a busy day.

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    1. It was mostly because she was tired. We are working on better methods in order to adjust the misbehavior, when it becomes too much. So far, so good.

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